Black Moms Adopt is a blog about a black family along their adoption journey. The hope is to encourage black moms and families to adopt from foster care in the US.
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Precious Boy really enjoyed stories and being read to. He would say his favorite books were about “superheroes, any heroes and even bad guys”. A doctor once told me that is typical of children who are adopted to want to be superheroes. (We can’t forget that Superman was adopted and that Spiderman lived with Aunt…
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On a hot summer day, I welcomed my son to his “forever home.” Precious Boy “came home” with two big cardboard boxes. They were filled with small clothes, a Spiderman action figure, and two thin paperback books that might have come from a giveaway. The social worker had forms and a few things to discuss in…
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Two months before the day Precious Boy (PB) came “home”, we met for first time at a playground. The social worker introduced me as a friend, “Miss Bea”. PB was excited to climb on the monkey bars. Again and again, he squealed “hold me, hold me”. Each time I answered, “I am here for you”. …
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Creating a Life Book seemed like a great way to help my child answer questions like: Who am I? Who are my people? How did I come to be adopted? How did we come to be a family? I was all excited to create a life book, until I got stuck! What words should I…
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When Precious Boy (PB) first came home to live, he was sad at times. I figured he was missing his foster family. Whenever I asked if he wanted to talk to them, he refused. Three weeks later, I finally called the foster family. PB was so happy to talk with them. That made me wonder…
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I remember a friend who had adopted talking about three kinds of loss in adoption. Children grieve the loss of their first parents and families. The first parents grieve the loss of their child. Adoptive parents grieve the loss of their child’s earlier life that they were not part of. In my case, my decision…
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Adoption has its own language and words and names. In adoption speak in America, we are a “forever family”. My precious boy “came home” to his “forever home”. Speaking about a forever can help a child feel rooted as they try to make sense of a big change and move. (A “forever home” sure…
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Adoption Day – After over a year of waiting with many fits and starts, it was finally time for adoption day. I explained to Precious Boy that we would go to court and see a judge who would make it so we could be a family. PB said he didn’t want to go to court…
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I wondered about myself as a parent, my future child and the child’s first parents. (I will use “first parents”, because in our home we talk about how my child has many families who love him.) I had heard stories about children who trash the house, hoard food, steal, set the house on fire, are…
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As I reflect on adopting, I realize that I had a lot of ideas—and questions and worries and concerns. I had lots of stories in my head. The idea to adopt first came to me when I was seven. I had a plan to adopt. And no, this was not an example of special powers…
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